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The Cake Conundrum

Alternative title: I fell off the healthy diet wagon face first and straight into a slice of black forest cake…And loved every delicious minute of it!


“I shouldn’t get a piece” I muttered at M as we queued for coffee*

“One piece won’t do you any harm” M said.

“I shouldn’t…It’ll make me fat” and there it is, the familiar feeling of anxiety.

“One piece of cake will not make you fat…It’s not as though you have this everyday” M reassured.

“Stop it! Just bloody stop it! That mentality is not a good thing, there is nothing wrong with the size of your backside or your gut…That cake is not the enemy, that cake is a treat. A treat that is eaten in moderation but a treat none-the-less! Relax…Now order the damned cake, forget the fork, just ram it in your mush and savour it!” my brain butted in.

So I did as I was told.

For as long as I remember I’ve had issues with food…More than once it has reached an obsessional stage where the mere thought of eating would send me into a panic. It took a lot of time, patience and talking to work through those points…To realise that food isn’t the enemy, but rather that the negative connotations I had associated with it were.

So while ordering cake would have probably thrown my slimming club into a total meltdown (had they not already revoked my membership over an avocado...I know, I know, daft), it was in fact a good thing. Not just because I got to taste the gorgeous combination that is chocolate and cherry, but because I allowed myself a treat and in doing so I in effect gave the ‘fudge you’ salute to that annoying little voice of anxiety telling me that my butt is going to swallow a chair should I even glance at anything sweet.

So yes, I fell off the healthy eating wagon.

I could make excuses…Such as “M helped me eat it” (he did too), “it had cherries in it, that means it’s healthy right?” (I know it’s not), “you can’t have coffee without cake, that’s just bloody sacrilege” (sort of true)…

coffee and cake

Not the coffee and cake in question…but my point still stands that cake is all the more fabulous for having coffee with it, and coffee is all the more fabulous for having cake with it (this was taken before the healthy eating thing started btw)

…Ultimately though the excuses wouldn’t (and don’t) matter. I am responsible for my own health and my own body.

It may sound like the biggest excuse of all….But I couldn’t care less. It was one slice of cake, it was one coffee, in a diet consisting mostly of fruit and vegetables and water. My clothes still fit, my weight hasn’t changed and my butt hasn’t eaten a chair…what has changed is my mentality. While I won’t be scoffing my way through the bakery section of the local supermarket anytime soon, I will be allowing myself the occasional sweet treat. And no, I won’t feel guilty about it!

So folks, how many of you have indulged in a treat since starting your healthier diets? Do you think it is better to allow a treat every once and a while or to try and completely ignore them? …Can people really ignore black forest cake?!

R x

*For those interested in my caffeine reducing antics – I’m down to a coffee a day, sometimes I don’t even have that (no caffeinated tea either)! I still have cravings when I get a whiff of a freshly brewed pot of the stuff but I’ve learned to simply enjoy the smell of it. I no longer want to stuff someone’s head up their backside for suggesting I just make a cup of it or for dismissing caffeine withdrawal as simply drama queen behaviour… That’s progress right?


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  1. “I’m responsible for my own health”- you have the answer right there m’lady. Health isn’t just eating salads and mung beans, it’s indulging every now and then too which is good for happiness, which is an important part of staying healthy πŸ˜€ XX

  2. Jen

    This reminds me that it is king cake season & King cake goes so very well with coffee & Sunday morning. & that 1 slice one day a week won’t kill me or the habits I’m working on.

    • Ruebi

      I had to look up what a king cake was…It looks amazing! I need to try it…I NEED to try it! πŸ˜€

  3. Black forest cake should never be ignored. It must be acknowledged with reverence, and eaten in reasonable quantities.
    I believe in everything in moderation. I managed to lose the 20lbs I packed on in grad school by eating smart, but not so smart that I didn’t allow myself a slice of cake or a doughnut here and there.

    Thou shalt not live on kale alone.

    • Ruebi

      20lbs, well done, that’s awesome πŸ™‚

      And I agree that everything in moderation is the way to go…mostly because I know my life would be boring without doughnuts! Especially the custard filled ones…Sigh.

  4. What, you’re making a dyscalculiac do math before leaving a comment? What obtuse torture is this?
    I’m all about the cake. Cake is one of the most important things in the civilized world, along with gin.
    Only the best cake, mind you. Posh patisseries, competitive mums. Nothing in boxes with pictures on. Baking it is therapeutic, gets you appreciated and only the best ingredients makes it healthy. Amen! Lovely post:)

    • Ruebi

      Amen! πŸ™‚

      And sorry about the maths thing…I tried a different spam filter and it didn’t seem to work as well which is all kinds of frustrating!

  5. Nat

    You definitely should have treats once in a while – denying yourself only leads to cravings that cannot be ignored. Plus, life is for living after all and cake, chocolate, etc….what would life be without them? I’m French and very into my food though πŸ˜‰

    • Ruebi

      I’ve found that since eating a cleaner diet I’ve been enjoying the treats a lot more when I do have them…Having a slice of cake or a cup of coffee is absolutely amazing! πŸ™‚

  6. I’m more impressed/horrified you can make it through the day on only one caffeinated drink. I cant cope without my daily 3-7 cups of tea/coffee … I’d end up cracking up and biting someones face off as soon as they said good morning. I applaud you my lovely!

    And as to the cake, a treat once in a while is a necessity. I think people set themselves up to fail when they start a diet but make it too strict.

    Hugs xxx


    • Ruebi

      Hello Sarah-Jane K from the #WeekendBlogHop,

      I’m surprised that I managed to make it to just 1 caffeinated drink a day given how much I was drinking…It has been a lot more difficult than I thought it would be and I was a bit of a nightmare to be around while the cravings subsided.

      As for the cake…I wouldn’t be able to keep up with a diet that was so restrictive. A slice of cake every now and again is great in my book and keeps me more invested in healthier eating the rest of the time.

      R x

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